Making Men
Athena Soriero
Ladies. We are the mothers, wives, sisters, teachers, and friends of men. We are the people who mold them into who they are. For us to complain now that men are pigs who are unable to commit is really almost laughable. Men are not to blame for the death of chivalry and the lack commitment. We are. YES, we are. We should not settle for being treated equal. What is so great about equal? We should want to be treated by a man better than the way he treats other men. We need pull our leashes a little tighter and start realizing that we should not accept the way men are. We need remember that it is not ok for a guy to “adjust” himself in front of us. It is not ok for a man to cuss every other word in conversation. It is not ok for a man talk about his masturbation habits.
Every time a man opens a door for a woman and gets told that she is perfectly capable of opening it for herself…another gentleman is dead. Half of us want a man who will open up doors, pull out chairs, and give up their jackets if we're cold. The rest of us could give two shits less about any of that and take a chivalrous or even a kind gesture as an insult. Now instead of being scolded for laziness they can simply play the “equality card.” This is our fault for ever telling a man to stop waiting on us hand and foot.
And yes….the reason why guys don't want to commit is our fault as well. When our grandmothers were our age holding hands was a big deal. When our grandmothers were our age people went steady before kissing. When our grandmothers were our age boys were intimidated by girls. When our grandmothers were our age boys respected girls. When our grandmothers were our age boys wanted a sweetheart or girl by his side. This has all changed and the reason is quite simple. It's not the guys who've changed, no….we have. Boys 50 years ago were the same as boys today. The difference is us. Now-a-days a guy doesn't have to be “going steady” or even be dating a girl to get in her pants. It's possible….very possible for a guy to sleep with a girl not only on the first date, but without even knowing her name. For some odd reason feelings and years of commitment and dating have been traded in for a couple drinks at the bar and any attempt at a pick up line. When our grandmothers were our age a slut was an outcast. A slut was dirty. A slut would never get married. A slut would disgrace her family. A slut would never be respected. But now, a slut is idolized.
A slut now is an independent woman who knows what she wants. The four sluts of the HBO show Sex and the City, were idolized. Don't get me wrong I loved that show, even rented all the seasons and watched them on DVD. But love them or not those four divas are sluts, huge ones. So now back to how our inability to keep our legs closed has ruined men. We have Americanized sex. We have created McSex. Instead off waiting for a home cooked meal or even 20 minutes at a casual dine restaurant we'd rather speed through the drive thru. So why would any semi-intelligent man want to be in a relationship or make any kind of commitment when getting a girl in bed has become so effortless?
Chivalry is so near death, but it can be resuscitated. We must start demanding respect and commanding gentlemanly behavior. When we realize that a man has to prove himself worthy and earn the tremendous privilege to enter us, we will rule. We have come so far and earned so much to let such a little thing slip through our clutches. We cannot forget that we are queens…goddess's….muses, warriors and empresses. Powerful we are. And like all that is power the world should bow at our feet….including men.
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