• Do write, email, IM but don't expect them to write back.
• Do ask questions but don't ask too many.
• Do expect them to change but don't be upset when they do.
• Do expect phone calls concerning homesickness and depression but don't worry too much about these calls unless they persist.
• Do visit (but not too often) but don't visit unexpectedly.
• Do be supportive and encouraging of their lives but don't tell them these are the best years.
• Do trust their ability to make good choices but don't question everything they decide on.
• Do treat them special when they come home but don't spoil them.
• Do be excited about them coming home but don't expect them to spend all their time with the family.
• Do be interested in their new life as a student but don't interfere or pry.
• Do listen with concern to their problems but don't take responsibility for those problems or make decisions for them.
• Do expect them to try out new values but don't worry; the values taught at home usually prevail.
• Do realize that academic demands may differ from high school.  At first, grades may drop a little but don't be overly concerned with academic pitfalls at first.  Encourage getting help from academic resources.
• Do expect them to complain about the food but don't be alarmed.  There are always enough choices for them to find something to eat.
• Do keep them informed on happenings in their hometown, former high school, etc. but don't forget they are still very interested in what happens at home.
• Do encourage them to seek help but don't seek it for them.

If you need further consultation, please feel free to contact the Counseling Center at (203) 371-7955.  The counselor staff welcomes your questions and is always ready to assist your student.

The Staff
Mary Jo Mason, Director, PhD, NCC, LPC
Jocelyn Novella, Assistant Director, MA, NCC, LPC
Janice Kessler, Prevention and Intervention Coordinator, MSSW, LCSW, MAC
Cheryl Carlson, Administrative Assistant